by imnotme

There, it’s been said. (just like a man :-p)

For better or worse there are penises and vaginas all throughout the animal kingdom. They captivate humans. It’s weird.

Why am I saying this? Well, if I’m going to be posting on a blog about feminism then I can be reasonably certain that some discussions will necessarily draw up distinctions between sex and gender dichotomies (or the true lack thereof). All I will say for now on the subject is that I believe feminism is an unnecessary separation of people from other people. Another fence. A boundary. If one were to ask me “Are you for the legal and social equality of women?” I would say yes emphatically, but I won’t camp there. I suppose that I would be satisfied to say: let’s all be the best we can. Oppression is not a woman’s issue so let’s not be selfish. Unless of course feminists across the board also identified as “southernists” and fought for the rights of exploited southern hemisphere workers who will never know anything but the struggle for food and shelter all because they chose or were born into living simply. These people will probably also never know feminism because it’s a luxury. For some, mating and sexuality are inherent, unquestioned. There is the male sex and the female sex in most people’s minds (with their normalized “gender” traits) and I can’t be bothered to get angry at anyone for it. Our meta-sexual journey is the result of technology and the vast exchange of information possible in developed nations, which is not necessarily the same thing as enlightenment.

All the same, I live in a developed nation with nearly every accommodation I could ask for, including this computer and internet connection, and I love a good discussion. I also believe that developed nations have a burden of social education. Let youngsters be informed that there is no prescribed way to behave that justifies the mistreatment of others. Yes?


7 responses to “Penis

  1. Oppression is not a woman’s issue so let’s not be selfish.

    I like a lot of things about that, but at the same time, it doesn’t address how problems are solved.

    For example, to focus on feminism as the social justice movement of one’s choice because they feel more drawn to it, or more passionate about it, doesn’t seem to me to be especially wrong or counterproductive to me when I think about how no one person or group of activist, non-profit, etc., can possibly manage to accomplish much of anything if they stretch themselves too thin. I think it’s valuable to have “specialists”in any given area where improvement needs to be made, in order to ensure that the most efficient and valuable people are involved, therefore yielding better, more quality results.

    At the same time, many feminists– especially modern “blog feminists”– seem to forget that there’s the rest of the world outside of the internet, and live in their own personal vacuum, making their progress in their particular movement worthless, because they don’t take other perfectly valid perspectives into account.

    …Oddly, many of the same feminists I talk about actually appear to consider every kind of oppression imaginable, and weave that into their feminist writing (which I think is good, mostly), but maybe they’re an example of stretching themselves too thin. All the feminist blogosphere is these days are a bunch of people who are angry at other bloggers for not giving enough attention their own personal brand of oppression all over their blogs.

    • That last part was kind of unclear– I mean to say that modern “blog feminists” do consider all types of oppression, but do not consider all perspectives.

  2. I think the struggle between ideas and ideals is the most significant consideration in any movement. I suppose the reason that people who think the way I do about the issue are viewed as unsympathetic is because there are so many real-world accounts of real girls and women suffering real tragedies ONLY for their sex. Or, that the cultural (or more often religious) views of gender performance expectations are so wildly oppressive and demeaning that systematic abuse is normalized. This is wrong and warrants a mass uprising.

    However, I will maintain that the biggest problem that people who want sexual equality face is “ism’s”. I think that some American/Western feminists have their first AHA moment and are then sent right into the feminist group-think slaughter house, where the only thing accomplished is a lot of mooing before being served up in a mess of inedible McRhetoric.

    One concession I will make, is that my stance is problematic in the following sense: where there is no organization there is little visible inertia. If feminism itself was relegated back to community level activism there would inevitably be some pockets of society where blatant sexism would survive or even flourish. That is a social problem, though.

    • sent right into the feminist group-think slaughter house, where the only thing accomplished is a lot of mooing before being served up in a mess of inedible McRhetoric.

      LOL to your choice of words.

      Anyway, all of that makes perfect sense. What I wonder about, though, is your definition of a “social problem.”

      For the most part, I consider sexism (in the US, specifically) to be a social problem, in the way that there are many laws on the books supposedly protecting women from institutionalized sexism, but how that doesn’t necessarily stop it from happening– and this is because of sexism, or misogyny, being socially accepted in many ways. Also, how social problems grow into larger issues that can overlap with (or turn into) legal or institutionalized problems.

      • Indeed, I am partial to communal law. I think that is precisely what I meant to address as “problematic” in the third paragraph of my prior response.

    • …there are so many real-world accounts of real girls and women suffering real tragedies ONLY for their sex.

      How much of that is due to females (rather than males) suffering real tragedies only for their sex, and how much of it is due to the way society constructs narratives of female suffering?

      For example, do a Google search on “”>murder OR homicide Juárez. Notice the volume of attention paid to the murdered women. You’d be hard-pressed to find any attention paid to the five to ten times as many murdered men.

      This exemplifies to other points on the list of female privilege I gave in the other thread. The media pays little attention to the men because society regards men as disposable. Consequently they become invisible.

      • That quote was only intended to illustrate that cases where it is necessary to intervene on the behalf of women who are being opressed or victimized exist.

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